Maybe to Ask Yourself

This woman on that online website I belong to has gone bananas.....and her behavior has gotten more and more bizzarre...

Maybe it's important to have some understandings about yourself  when you turn to an online website for support.

• Know really why you are seeking help from that  community.
• Know it's not a "pissing contest" with respect to "who has suffered the most and who is the sickest"  Because if that is the ultimate goal, you are one sick puppy, and ya got everyone beat hands down--period.
• Understand your role within the community as a member
• Know that there are rules of decorum.  And though you may look like you are following them, ask yourself  honestly and truly if you are, or if it's words that are wrapped in passive-aggressive, or just plain aggressive and hostile  language that are intended to drive off another member and say, "see how much more I have suffered????"  If that's the answer maybe all you deserve at the end of the day is a pain pill and a pat on the back.
• If your presence is making others not want to be around--you are the one who should be packing their bags.

If your picture of compassion at the end of the day is a mother holding the hand of their child, or someone holding your hand and saying how it's going to be okay,,,  then someone has dome you a tremendous disservice.  Life does not always turn out okay.  I went into the OR thinking I'd leave more pain on the table and came out with RSD.  If the surgeon had said there was a 100% chance "iiiiiiiissssss all gonna be okay honey" then he'd have not been doing his job, and he'd have been dishonest, and we all know things like RSD happen with surgery, and dammit, lying to the patient is not really all that compassionate!!!!

A compassionate individual would not have said there was a 100% chance that "everything is gonna be all better." And they didn't.  The doc said, however small, there was a chance of more pain after the surgery."  Boy, they weren't kidding.  If RSD is what they mean by "more pain," I'd hate to see what they'd tell a heart transplant canidate the chances were of death on the table!

Sometimes compassion means telling you your behavior is immature and unacceptable, too, not coddling them into oblivion to the point where other members are wanting to close their accounts in disgust.  Or people are walking away from whatever community you're in, you've just decimated the community in one fell swoop, and well you've shown that community absolutely zero compassion, so what does anyone owe you now?

I'd almost say at that point, the gloves are off, baby.

Freedom from hatred and negativity means letting go of the hatred in your heart eventually. Hang onto it and you eventually drown.